1. "Please, don't do this, you don't have to do this. I didn't mean to--I didn't want to-- please! I don't want to die! I didn't ask for this!"

2. Yes, if that's how it works in Alec's canon. They can retain the underlying emotional state when puppeted.

3. Yes to their jobs. No to anything outside of their jobs, except the gravedigger who has muscle memory for combat.

4. No.